What is Blind date?
A blind date is a date between two people who have not met before, usually arranged by a mutual friend, relative or matchmaker.
A blind date is a first meeting between two people who have never met and often know little about each other. Traditionally, a friend or family member suggests the pairing because they think the two would get along. Today the term also covers dates arranged through apps or matchmaking services where the pair has not yet met in person or has seen few photos.
The appeal is that someone who knows you has already considered your personality and values, so the match may be more thoughtful than a random meeting. The challenge is that you start with little information, which can create nerves and pressure. Expectations also matter: if you are told someone is perfect for you, the real person may disappoint.
Treat a blind date as a low-stakes chance to meet someone new rather than an audition for a relationship. Choose a public place, keep the first meeting short, and let your friend know where you are going. Safety and openness go a long way: you may not find a partner, but you can often enjoy an interesting conversation.
Example: Marisol's colleague sets her up with his friend Kofi, saying they share a love of hiking. They meet for coffee at a busy cafe, talk for an hour, and agree afterward that they would enjoy a walk on the weekend, even if romance is uncertain.
Signs
- The two people have not met before the date
- Someone else, such as a friend or relative, arranged the introduction
- You know only a few facts such as occupation or interests
- The first meeting is often short and in a public place
- Expectations and nerves are both higher than usual
What to do
- Choose a public place and tell a friend where you will be and when you expect to finish.
- Ask your matchmaker a few basic questions in advance, but avoid heavy expectations.
- Keep the first meeting short, such as coffee or a drink, so either of you can leave easily.
- Be curious and respectful, and treat the person as someone to learn from, not as a verdict on yourself.
- Follow up kindly afterward, whether you want to see them again or not.
Frequently asked questions
Are blind dates safe?
They can be if you take precautions: meet in a public place, share your plans with a friend, arrange your own transport and trust your instincts. Verifying the person through your mutual contact also helps.
What should I say if I do not want a second date?
Be kind and direct. Thank them for their time, say you enjoyed meeting them, and explain that you do not feel a romantic connection. Avoid vague promises.